Who am I? Why did I have to be born? Weren’t there other sperms more focused on getting birthed other than me? What’s my purpose?
Sometimes I think I’ve got this, only for life to throw me off balance. I cry, I yell, I talk about it, nonstop actually, but I still feel empty. There’s an unstitchable hole in my heart. It’s like I have pins and needles all over my body. Sometimes I just wanna drown out all of the thoughts in my mind going on at the same time. I wish it would stop and I’ve tried, but life just sucks.
I’ve learnt to cower away from pain, from the never-ending problems, from friends whose relationships seem unmendable, from love and relationships because what’s the point? I am broken beyond repair. I wish I could erase my memories, so I could stop feeling so empty. I wish that I could stop self sabotaging but guess what… it’s hard to resist when there’s plenty of things I could do to fuck me up. I wish I can just let go but I’m feeling so stuck, so all I can do is fill up my cup and sit here alone hoping no one disrupts my ‘seemingly amazing life’.
Yes, I hate this feeling. I hate second guessing every step, I hate hiding away my face because society says I’m not pretty enough. I hate being lightskinned because society can’t stop making me feel bad for just being a bit lighter. I hate that they attack my intellect because for some reason movies depict ‘our race’ as blonde. I hate that I always have to get those baggy stuff to hide my body because God forbid you have just a little more cheese and meat and develop an adorable small tummy.
I hate that everytime I show or tell someone I care just a little too much them, they run away from me because ‘I’m too much or they suddenly realize they have better things to do with their lives.I hate that I have to try and learn the ‘society-approved’ music just because I want to fit in the ‘It’ crowd. I mean so what if I find Freya Ridings and Lennon Stella refreshing? When did listening to Billie Eilish become a symptom of depression? I hate that I always have to smile around strangers or result to unmeaningful small talk because hell would rise if I just stayed home or just had two friends to chat with everyday.
It’s a never ending war. I mean, you can never win in this spirit-crushing world. Something is always being thrown your way. I know nothing is easy but I know even Jesus couldn’t handle all the hurdles we face in this Century. I know social media came to fuck up everything but does it have to be this sucky? Yes I know sucky isn’t a word but fuck I’ll create words in my dictionary if I want to.
How many of our friends have to die of depression till the aliens above come to the rescue (yes, I believe in God but then again sometimes I doubt He is up there, otherwise people wouldn’t be suffering as much)? We are hit from all sides by the pressure from our peers, our parents have become our number one critics, the day you get an encouraging word from them is when you’re offering them a cheque to cover their expenses, the government keeps pinning us down with taxes, shitty laws, fucked up employment systems and a list of inhumane stuff, our dearest friends are our worst enemies and the person you choose to share your life with takes away any little energy and peace you have left.
I am just tired of soaking up my pillow with tears. I am tired of burying friends and family because my best friend or ex couldn’t take it and decided to end the pain. I am tired of being told that ‘I am a millenial, the weak generation’…I mean I live in a Century where a country can create a virus and we all just take it (we don’t wage a war on them or anything). I am from a generation where someone can say the most hurtful things behind a screen and ghosting is a trendy thing.
Its hard and no matter how much you keep talking and googling treatments the hurt doesn’t stop. It doesn’t even help that unlike most first-world countries, majority of us can’t afford therapy or hypnosis. I wish there’s a way we could just erase the pain and reboot our systems but as fate would have it, these memories and heart aches are here to stay.
That said though, one might ask, what’s the point of this post? Well… I just needed to put all this out there and ask any psychiatrist or pro psychologist to come to our rescue. We need a platform(free, therapy costs more than a kidney and we need ours as an investment for the dark days) where we can share stuff and get non-generic responses. I know Befrienders Kenya exists but we need an online platform, something anonymous that most of us if not all, can get to speak their minds and get help without judgment.
So pass along this message and help me get to the experts who can create such a space to help end this war on depression.
Yours Faithfully,
A very concerned and clearly fucked up millenial.